I loooovveee white boys. I do. Is it degrading to call them boys? I call black men men. But white men boys. Hmm. There’s probably something psychological behind that, but I don’t care to contemplate it right now.
I have never been picky as far as race, and I’ve dated many ethnicities (that’s not a word!) and a few nationalities. But my overwhelming preference is for white men. Their wispy chest hair and happy trails, their pink headed cocks, their sun freckles and light eyes framed by lush lashes, their sharp noses and strong jawlines covered in stubble. And not really inside out Oreo cookie white boys (think about that for a second, I’ll wait…), although those can be nice too, but white white boys with their distressed jeans and comic book t-shirts and surf boards and flip flops and Jeep wranglers and the whole nine.
I’ve loved them since childhood. My first crush was black, but he rejected me (maybe that’s why I like white boys! I was traumatized in kindergarten!). Wait no, I had a boyfriend in Preschool named Luis, he was Mexican and I used to fight with the other María in my class over him. Whatever – anyway – my first boyfriend was Marcus Cippaloni, an Italian boy in the 3rd grade. He was sexy. Which is disturbing in and of itself, being as the last time I saw him he was 9 years old so how the hell could I consider him sexy?! But yeah, he was really good looking with big green eyes and jet black hair.
I’m not really sure why I prefer white dudes, but I don’t think it matters. To me it’s the same thing as someone liking tall men over short men, or girls with long hair over girls with short. I mean it’s not a requirement – it’s just something that will make our probability to date grow higher.
I giggle when people claim I’m a ‘sell-out’ or a victim of ‘self-hatred’. Tell me, who am I selling out to? I could care less about outside appearances and I don’t think it gives me any brownie points to be seen with a white man over a black man. And since I’m 1/2 Mexican – which race of men should I really be dating in order to align myself with what you think is right? Shouldn’t I limit myself to men of my exact ‘mixture’. If not, aren’t I hating on the other 1/2? IMPORTANT QUESTIONS!!
I used to think when I was younger that it was only black women that despised interracial dating so much. I’d hear about the latest basketball player or actor to ditch his black girlfriend for a white wife, as if she was the final symbol that he’d ‘made it big’. I never really saw the problem. And the whole ‘stealing our men’ bit was perplexing too.
But it’s not just black women. Black men too. They seriously get man-ffended when they see an attractive black girl with a white guy. Sometimes they come out their face wrong to me and get embarrassed to the point where they can only manage to stutter out ‘bitch’ as I walk away.
The caliber of these black men that would feel the need to claim they that were better for me because they possessed more melanin than others was so lacking. Sorry, but I outgrew 24″ inch rims on Chevy Impalas parked in front of your mama’s house when I was a teenager. I don’t find Timberlands in the summer time to be attractive, or practical. I like pants worn low to show off obliques and those dimples above their butts, but I don’t need to see your underwear. Although there really is nothing sexier than a black man with a nice chest in a plain white tee over a wifebeater with some dark jeans and Tims – that should not be your only attire! It was amusing to me that they were so dismissive of my white boys, when my white boys superseded them in basically every way, except maybe penis size, but I can’t win them all. At least have something over them besides the fact that ‘I’m your sister and you can relate to me on a special level’ because really, I understand that and it’s totally true, but it’s not that important to my personal existence.
I understand that some people don’t date interracially because of physical preferences. They just aren’t attracted to another race, and that’s fine. I can’t date a guy that shaves his sideburns off if he’s not in the military, or that is shorter than me, or that waxes his eyebrows into arched perfection. Or that has longer hair than I do. Things like that. So I get it.
Isn’t it the same thing when I prefer to date interracially because of physical preferences? I think so.
—————-
Listening to: T.I. – I’m Illy
{ 15 comments… read them below or add one }
thank you! i feel the same exact way.
You are listening to TI on this post. Your argument is invalid?
I thought I had a type too. Which I’ve since thrown completely out the window. Who knew.
May 25, 2009 at 8:27 am
It is not!
And I’d tear T. I. down if I had the opportunity
Sexy ass little mother fucker.
Hotdamn.
I have a bunch of different types. I DO prefer tall (husband) and thin (husband) but have been in love with shorter/extremely built/not-so-cute, different races, even a guy in a wheel chair. I think “my type” is a personality rather than a physical appearance. Physical stuff changes so fast that I tried to find something in each guy that I found sexy and went with that…
I can’t lie and say I don’t get mad when I see some dude with a beautiful black woman, but it’s not because he’s white, black, or anything else. It’s because it means she’s off limits and that sucks, lol. I personally am open to everyone, but thus far in life I’ve only dated/been in relationships with latina, black, asian women. I did meet this cool ass chick in class that’s white, but she’s younger than me, and that is one of the things I kinda am picky about.
i love black woman but i have always been scared to ask them out
I love White men as well. I say that I would date anyone but in my mind I am thinking; I will only date White men.
I have only dated White men and want to marry one.
Now call me anything but I love me a White men!
si in concluzie cam ce preferati voi femeile din toata lumea ; barbatii albi,barbatii negri sau cei galbeni??????!!
if u don’t know the white race is on the way of exctquish…just like dinosaurus….and that because the women of whole the world inclusiv white prefer to marry whith black man not white ….,yap ! i am one of white ”dinosaurus” and i’m renounced to looking for my soulmet for log time
Good article.
Not everybody is attracted to their own race. People should follow their hearts when it comes to attraction…
the black males are pet. encourage…. it is not true?!
I’m in H.S and lots of white guys check me out but never make a move and I’m not the type to make a move so I’m a hopeless case…I’m fully black but I lok Asian because of my eyes and I’m popular but I am one of the civilized relaxed friendly ones…And I’m well known for being athletic and my softball career…I’m in a very diversed school but the guys lyk White (their lose)…I stay in my bubble and in effect have no luck in the game :/…As I said hopeless case…hahahaha
<3h34t#3r
one day white women reject/spurn the white males and accepting more black…….but now the situation are changing everywhere, i see more white guys looking for asian women for marriaje ….yap! ,and i’m do it the same thing
I feel where you are coming from. Im black and my boyfriend is white. All my friends dont understand why i am attracted to him, but i look past his color. Its my boyfriends personality that got me. I actually forget his is white sometimes.
You have a preference. Everyone does. I love when I find people who agree with me on this. It’s like most people think you are racist to black people, but you’re not. Worst for me people think I am confused, because I am 17. I just have a stronger preference for Caucasian males then others. I mean won’t date just any guy, there’s certain standards for all. As for white guys, as long as they aren’t that freakish tall and thing, pale, creeper status its all good. ;P People should get over “racism” acting that way and relating everything with it.